addendum, giveaway winners and more
Does that count for a whole post? Because it’s almost too painfully gorgeous to talk about. But, the oaky hills are already the drab grey of a deer’s winter hide, and it’s almost a relief, like okay, we’re not going to exist in a state of awed stupor forever.
But, big news! Rose has snapped. I mean, she’s learned how to snap her fingers, and is only slightly less excited than Dan, when he killed that bull elk with his bow. Seriously. Also, we finally figured out how to use Skype, and the kids are giddy over it. I think it makes Rose feel famous.
Also, Rose is very good at sorting and packing little bags of trail mix, and is available for hire. Apparently Col has been paying Rose to clean his room for $1. I had a few thoughts about this arrangement, but have since decided that I’d too hire a housecleaner if I could afford it.
And, Col has some tomato-drop cookies for you! This is the true manifestation of having enough tomatoes. Bowing deeply to the romas of 2012.
Okay, first the business. Winners of the Edible San Juan Mountain Magazine giveaway below. E-mail me your address and I’ll get you your magazines. Thanks for your interest, guys. Really. And all the nice things you said.
1. Erin Anderson Maxwell
5. Melissa Neta
Next, addendums.Thank you for all your encouraging responses to this post, all your facebook shares and e-mails and good words. (I was nervous that all you’d hear is “Parenting? Oh yeah, we got that figured out,” and never trust me again). I added a couple more books to the resource list, and for people who were interested in the book with the most real life, practical advice, I’d recommend the very user-friendly How to Talk to Your Kids Listen, and Listen so Your Kids Talk.
I also wanted to share that Dan and I (AKA: me, explaining to Dan every 6 months, “okay, here’s our new parenting strategy,” as he’s falling asleep) came by this philosophy because there were nights I’d come to bed feeling battered from the exchanges between me and Rose. Col has always been the kind of kid to whom you could issue a time-out and he’d slink off to his room to do his penance and then return seemingly unscathed. Rose has been the kind of kid who wails and pounds on the door as you’re holding the doorknob on the other side.
Also, Rose has a lot of big emotions that have scared me, probably because, hello Mini-me, we are quite alike. But I love that we’re learning together, that I get to help her experience, at 5 years old, that all of her emotions are welcome here, which of course, is the light on the shore that guides me home as well.
And goddamn, it’s hard. I give myself a lot of time-outs on the front porch to breathe. I still get confused between helping my kids take responsibility, and punishment. And I still lose my temper more than I would like, but less than before.
Also, I realized because of a comment on that post, that I may not have given enough information when I explained that sometimes I say “no” to Rose when she asks for a snack before dinner to curtail negotiations. Dinner is the one meal that all 4 of us are regularly home for. It is a unique and special time to connect and enjoy the harmony of nourishing our bodies and spirits, together.
We close the kitchen to snacking 2 hours before dinner, because if our children come to the table with a hearty appetite they’re more likely to try new foods and participate in the ritual of a family meal. So, when Rose asks for a snack after the kitchen is closed, the answer is lovingly “no.” Hopefully that clears something up.
Dan is out deer hunting, but if you need us we’ll be here, twisting our minds over this motherfreaking puzzle.
Photo by Col.
Happy Monday (in which I am taking 4 homeschoolers down to our local bank for a tour, for my teaching day on our new homeschool co-op unit “where does that come from?” (For which Col and I selected, “money.”) Col asked me tonight, “so how much money do you think they’re going to give us at the bank tomorrow?”